Anger is an instinctive, automatic, and necessary response to unfairness. Anger alerts us that something is wrong and supplies the energy to make it right.
All social animals have a built-in sense of fairness. Two dogs will fight when only one gets a bone. When treats are equally dispensed, both are content. The sense of fairness is most developed in primates. Capuchin monkeys will refuse to perform tasks when they see other monkeys getting better rewards for the same effort.
Human beings are the most social of all species, with the keenest sense of fairness. Even the youngest child will protest, “They got more than I did!” and “It’s not fair!”
Anger is mistakenly viewed as a threat to social connections. On the contrary, anger protects social connections by protesting inequality.
Early egalitarian societies understood that social harmony depends on every member having equal worth and equal rights. West Coast Indigenous peoples arranged gatherings where desired goods would be given away, exchanged, and even destroyed to prevent the resentment that arises when some have more than they need and others go without.
When fairness cannot be obtained, anger can eat away at a person to produce physical symptoms like high blood pressure and digestive problems, emotional symptoms like anxiety and depression, and social problems like domestic and workplace violence.
Anger does not need to be managed. Anger is not the problem. The injustice that provokes it is the problem.
Inequality has always provoked protest. From the slave uprisings of the ancient world through the peasant revolts of the Middle Ages to the rebellions that rock the modern world, people have always fought for an equal say and an equal share.
Because inequality provokes anger, class-divided societies require penal systems to crush rebels and intimidate everyone else. In America, the rise in social inequality has been matched with a corresponding expansion of the penal system.
While anger alerts us that something is wrong, it cannot tell us how to fix it. To make things right, we need to understand how capitalism creates inequality and how we can work together to replace it with a truly fair society.
This made me think of a comment a psychologist made to me the other day when talking about female clients. He mentioned how women are often “pissy”.
In a world that tells women that we are equals, yet where we rarely are able to see this equality in action, no wonder women are angry. I think of all the (many) negative words that are used to describe “angry” women, and it suddenly doesn’t seem so surprising that we have been fooled into believing that anger is an individual problem rather than a social problem.
Fairness is a matter of perspective. You might feel anger towards social injustices. However, I feel anger towards those who expect to be given that which they have not earned. You might want to consider that your view on the world is not the only “truth”
I also feel anger towards those who expect to be given that which they have not earned. The 22 richest men in the world have more wealth than all the women in Africa combined. They did not earn it; they stole it.
To match the average fortune of the world’s richest billionaires, you would have to save $10,000 every day for 22,500 years. Keep that in mind the next time you feel anger towards someone who simply wants a living wage.